Having a steady relationship means giving some things up, like your ego. You have to put it aside to make room for the things that actually matter in life and that you’d like to share with your partner.
The thing is that once you’ve gone some time alone, you are kinda used to not sharing some things with people, and you might not be able to differentiate between just a bunch of people you might like to call friends and your partner who is actually entitled to those things – if you wanna build a stable relationship, that is.
Many people are doing the same mistakes when in relationships and they don’t devote fully to their partners, which proves to be a really bad idea in the long run.
So here’s what you need to do if you want to maintain a stable relationship with your partner in which you don’t make him feel bad or unloved. Here we go:
1. Your Plans For The Future
Your partner is now part of your life, so he’s entitled to know what plans you have for the future. If you have completely different approaches to life and to the future, then how are you going to create that future together?
You have to include him in this and that’s just a must because now you’re no longer deciding on your faith, you’re deciding on the faith of your relationship and the faith of your partner too. Don’t be selfish.
2. Your Finances
This is something that every couple needs to discuss eventually – you need to figure out how you’re gonna go about finances because most couple when they step into a marriage, they fight because of money – and as dumb as it may sounds – you don’t want that to happen to you, do you? So sit down, talk to your partner and figure out whether you’re going to go about your own money or combine and pay for things, or anything else that works for you.
3. Your Personal Issues
You don’t stop being an individual just because you’re in a relationship now, so don’t act like you do. You have issues and your partner needs to know about them, even if they can’t help, they can give you support – and sometimes that’s all one needs.
4. What You Think Of Him
What’s the point in staying together if you can’t share what you think about each other? You need to tell them when they’re being wonderful, but you need to tell them when they’re acting like assholes too. That’s not something tha’ts just gonna go away on its own without having a proper conversation about it.
5. What You Expect
If you have unrealistic expectations of your partner, he needs to know about it because otherwise he’ll just keep failing you. They need to be able to stand up to you and your expectations and you need to be able to see them in the real light and not just create an illusion about them in your head.
6. The Set Boundaries And Exceptions
If you don’t like a certain behavior, set a boundary. Make exceptions for everything that you can tolerate. But don’t expect them to know what you like and dislike by default because that’s not how things work. You need to be able to communicate with your partner in a healthy way and see what they feel and how far they are ready to go too.